Un-Schooling World

Homeschooling is not for everyone

We all learn in different ways. What is most important to note here is that EDUCATION is what is most important. Some love the homeschool environment because it gives them the freedom to learn what they truly desire to learn. Others are not self-motivated at all, get bored easily, and need a different environment in order to learn the lessons they need to learn.

 

My son, after trying out 2 years of public high school, realized that he valued the freedom and stress-free environment of a homeschool setting he had had from second grade through 8th grade. My daughter, on the other hand, seems to prefer to attend public school. She got bored at home and unfortunately did not learn the skill of self-motivation here. There are many skills she needs to learn and perhaps she will need to learn them during four years of public high school. Having been accepted into the cheer team may be a great aid for her! She learned during her first year in public school that in order to stay on the team she needs to indeed keep up her grades so that should motivate her more during her second year, and hopefully beyond, to make sure her homework is turned it and that she studies for her tests.

 

Public school has many temptations for kids - dating, sex before marriage, and vaping being on the top list for 9th and 10th graders and adding alcohol and drugs to higher grades. The fact that my brothers and I attended a private school and were not homeschooled helps me see God can help us stay strong, so I just keep praying for her, though her faith right now has dwindled quite a bit. The most important thing as our kids grow up is that they learn to make the right choices, and many times that learning comes from making mistakes, sometimes several times, before they actually learn that lesson. 

 

I want both my kids to be children that value integrity and that are able to live completely independent from my husband and I after they reach the age of 21, which is the age both my step-kids moved out and started living on their own. I want them both to learn how to manage their money properly so they are not constantly broke and in debt. I want them to learn to say no to drugs, alcohol, vaping, smoking, and sex before marriage. I can't protect them all their life, so I just pray God will protect them and help them learn the skills they need to learn in any way they need to learn them; that means sometimes they will need to learn through dealing with the bad consequences of their actions. We just have to continue to love them even when they make mistakes and wrong decision and talk to them in one way or another until they learn the lesson. 

 

The point I want to make in this blog post is that we all learn in different ways. Some learn best in a homeschool environment, but others don't. I believe it is wise to homeschool them at least through 8th grade, but not all are suited to continue this style of education through high school. Work with them and simply love them and respect the way they prefer to learn. Make sure you stress the fact that it is LEARNING that is most important here, regardless of what way they choose to do so. Education is to be valued throughout our lifetime and that we must never stop learning until the day die.